I have just finished watching this movie.
It is so heart wrenching to see Will Smith goes through all the obstacles.
The most memorable scene for me (and I guess it would be a hard slapped to him) is when the son ask: Did mum leave because of me?
Can you imagine your son asking you this? Thinking that he himself is to be blamed for the breakup of the family? Poor him. My heart was broken into a thousand pieces then.
Then he added: You are a good daddy.
Huarrrghhhhh… I feel like crying. (Luckily no one was looking at me then 
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This movie brings back a lot of my own memory.
Few years back, I was working with someone. My wife quit her job to stay with me. My son was only 5 month old.
Someone came to know that I wasn’t quite happy working there. He offered me a partnership somewhere in KL. We are supposed to open a new clinic.
As my wife always like to move to KL, I figure this may be a golden oppurtunity too good to miss. I accepted the offer, and give my resignation to my boss (then).
The day after I tendered my resignation, the wealthy fella in KL suddenly called. He claimed that he would not be starting the business just then.
What?
I looked at my wife and my son. This is like the world suddenly coming to an end. She didn’t have a job. Son was only 5 month old. The famous chinese saying is ” the old don’t eat, the young also has to eat”. How were we going to last the next few months, while this rich fella work out some other plans?
Chris Gardner in the movie has said a phrase multiple times: You just have to trust me. Do you trust me?
Luckily, my wife chose to trust me. For that, I feel like I owe her (for the rest of my life). She decided that we can hang together, and work through this ‘dark period’ of our life. There will be light at the end of the tunnel.
When I look back now, I realised that regardless of good time or bad times, it was my family which kept me going. Looking at them, I got all the stregth that I need, to do what needed to be done.
ya, right. I have always believe in my capabilities and depend on myself and dun easily trust people, especially my government.
Having the support of our family members is important. But learning to stand on my own two feet is my greatest challenge. I am a good example to my son. Pity he has a good life, I should make it tougher for him.
Tough times never last but tough people do. My salute to a tough guy, yenjai!
ECL, yeah. Our son really hasn’t gone through tough time.
I always tell my son: MY dad (his grandfather) when he was at 7 year old, he only can have rice twice a month. On the rest of the month, he survive on pumpkin. Now my son got the gut tell me that Strawberry isn’t nice enough for him!
Sigh. I wonder how I can toughen him
Thanks for the bday wishes.
wow yenjai,at first i was surprised you took a long time to see this movie. then reading your article was very touching also - trust is a difficult thing to do. I think it is an excellent movie which brought lots of tears and heartache. Good write.
so touching/..
Still I have a long way to go to be a tough ppl…
Ha..u give me a good example^^
ahhong, we only get tough, when the situation get rough
yeah , i love the movie too..will try to get DVD copy of it..Hubby loves it too..very inspiring..
Trust is such an invaluable and priceless charateristic nowadays. I guess.. you earned it.
I’ve been through tough times.. but now things are not so though anymore… i become soft again.
is happyness, with the Y, though this is wrongly spell.
well, we only become better after being through tough moments…
and you are tougher now.
it is always in time of tough suitation that you can finally see the ‘colours’ of people, people who really stick by and stand by you when you’re down and and out; and those that dont. It is a blessing that you have found yourself such a wonderful wife and i’m sure your wife thinks its a blessing for her that she has a husband who appreciates and love her too
The tough gets going when the goings get tough…
It’s sooo true!
Never trust employers or anyone else….
most important is family. There are always there - through thick and thin
ALSO, God has and will always be there - I am going tru a rough patch myself too. Being in Sydney now, it’s miserable!!!